A Knock at the Door
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A Knock at the Door

June 2013

Wendy Tucker and her husband, Marco Ferreira

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I didn't make the bed the morning of Sunday, November 2, 2008; my husband, Marco, was still asleep when I left the house. I always make the bed. When I returned to the house late that afternoon, I straightened the linens, all the while grumbling about Marco's failure to do so.

Suddenly, I heard a loud knock at the door, which was strange: In Los Angeles, no one just stops by. On my front porch was a CHP officer. He asked me if Marco Ferreira lived there. "Yes," I answered, puzzled.

"Does he have a motorcycle?" the young officer asked. I started to catch on slowly. I felt like I was under deep water.

"Yes, he does! My husband was out riding his motorcycle today," I responded, frantic. "What happened?"

Marco was alive, the officer assured me; he had been in an accident and was flown by helicopter to UCLA Medical Center. In the movies, the officer takes you to the hospital. Not true. I drove myself, calling the ER along the way.

Marco was a healthy 45-year-old, an avid cyclist, and an employment defense attorney at Paul Hastings. He had suffered a severe traumatic brain injury (TBI) and upon arrival at UCLA was close to death. Marco was in a coma for six weeks, and after "waking" he spent the next seven months barely speaking, walking, or eating. After four surgeries - including a craniectomy and cranioplasty - many months at a skilled nursing facility and Casa Colina, a rehabilitation hospital, and years of therapy at home, he made a "miraculous" recovery, at least in the world of brain injury. But he is not the person he was before the accident - physically, emotionally, or cognitively.

I distinctly remember telling myself early on, as I sat for hours in the intensive care unit, that I did not want this experience to turn me into a bitter person. I kept this in mind even at one of my lowest moments, when Marco was discharged to return home but still needed a 24-hour caregiver. By focusing on the positive in our tragedy, including our ability to provide support for others in a similar situation, I was able to move through even our toughest challenges.

This long journey has been full of ups and downs, even with a strong support network of family and friends, my understanding and flexible law firm, insurance and disability benefits, excellent relationships with health care providers, and my own 20-plus years of experience litigating complex medical cases.

For Marco and me, giving back to others has provided our greatest sense of purpose. A year after the accident, I began handling pro bono cases for veterans seeking increased benefits for their injuries, including TBI and post-traumatic stress disorder. One of my proudest moments was getting a thank-you card from a female veteran that simply stated, "There are angels out there." But it has been harder for Marco because he no longer practices law and lives daily with a brain that often operates in a fog, even four years later.

He volunteers as UCLA's first neurosurgery patient advisor, helping patients and their families as they deal with the aftermath of a brain injury. In fact, UCLA has provided us with incredible opportunities to assist TBI survivors and their families. We are there to give hope and inspiration. Over the years we've developed lifelong bonds with many families and have formed an informal support group to share our stories on a monthly basis at one of our homes.

When we innocently recited our wedding vows just seven years before Marco was injured - to be there "in sickness and in health" - we never contemplated this. Nevertheless, my most fulfilling work thus far has been as Marco's wife, and as an advocate and confidant for brain injury survivors and their families.

In our lifetime, we'll all get a knock at the door - whether literal or figurative. We typically have no choice but to answer. We do have a choice, however, about what we do with the experience - and all that comes after

Wendy A. Tucker is a partner in the life sciences practice of Sedgwick in Los Angeles. In 2012 she received Public Counsel's Pro Bono of the Year award for her work with veterans.

Reader Comments

Fatima Reis - June 1, 2013
What an inspiring and wonderful article..I am so very proud that Wendy is my cousin. Throughout this difficult journey she has been a source of inspiration to me, she has been loving, kind and so very committed to get the best care for Marco even in the darkest days she never lost hope and do whatever needed to be done to get Marco out of the dark tunnel he was in...Her first priority was always to get Marco moving forward and get better. when some other people might have given up, she always pushed forward..I am so very proud of both of them, out of this sad experience they found the will and desire to help others, anyone whose life they touch are very lucky to have them...God bless you both.... They still have so many challenges facing them in their everyday life and yet their thoughts are with others and what they can do to help. Hurray for you both...Love you guys...... :-) Thank you California Lawyer for publishing this article.
Dr David Patterson - June 2, 2013
What a horrible knock to get. Marco is a miracle and thanks to your support and love of Marco he continues to progress.
Mary Lyn Barber - June 6, 2013
Your story is remarkable. The only choice is to move forward. Sending you blessings
Toni Shahak - June 10, 2013
Your dedication to your husband and others in similar situations is remarkable. Thank you for giving of yourself.
Beth McNamara - June 19, 2013
This is a beautiful story, just beautiful! The fact that the 2 of you can see the changes in each other and embrace reality is the beauty of it all. This is the magic of you guys! Also, you two can individually (and together) lighten up a room and bring peace to those in pain. I just have one question.. does the new Marco straighten up the linens?
Pat Ewing - June 20, 2013
Wendy, You rock girl. Thanks for all your support the last few years. Both you and Marco are true inspirations to everyone who know you.
Chris Giza - June 22, 2013
When faced with difficult challenges, we should all embrace them with the spirit and vigor that you and Marco have. It is through efforts like yours that the world becomes a better place. Thank you.
Linda A. Willett - June 29, 2013
Wendy Than you so much for the inspiration that you and Marco provide to others. We all admire your strength and courage and the fact that you are now growing as a lawyer by representing veterans in need. Sedgwick, LLP has a real asset in you and I thank them for their support of you.
Kimberly Gully - June 29, 2013
So inspiring Wendy! It is my honor and pleasure to have been introduced to you and Marco. I needed to read something like this right now. THANK YOU! Keep doing the great work that you guys do, it is so needed and so appreciated by so many.
Marla Persky - August 19, 2014
After losing touch for almost two decades, I met Wendy again at a recent conference. She told me about Marco's accident and the daily challenges they both face. Wendy's article and Marco's story are amazing - so many couples fail in the face of such challenges. So many people wall themselves off. But Wendy and Marco give back - they help others. They are role models that entire communities should follow - giving back is the ultimate measure of success and a life well-lived. I am so glad Wendy and I re-connected.

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